10-year-old gives birth — father is her mothers boyfriend.
An investigation wasn’t launched until the 10-year-old gave birth. You’d think someone like a friend, family or teacher would have noticed a pregnant 6th grader and called someone. At least the hospital workers were doing their job.
The 10-year-old girl (now staying with relatives) has had her newly born daughter have been taken away by Hamilton County Department of Job and Family Services (JFS) and is now in foster care.
She is not likely to get her baby back as prosecutors don’t feel a 6th grader is capable of raising a child… and obviously she won’t be getting the help of her parents.
It looks like mommy (now grandma) may be going away too. The girls’ mother was warned not to let any adult men around until they could determine who the father was. But when caseworkers made a surprise visit, they found Michael Chaffer.
Hopefully both children are in better hands now.
(thanks kat for sending in this tip)
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33 opinions for 10-year-old gives birth — father is her mothers boyfriend.
Michelle
Feb 7, 2008 at 6:19 pm
OMG! WFT? How does a pregnant 10-year-old girl go unnoticed until she gives birth? This story is so freaking disturbing. Shame on the Mother. What the hell is wrong with people????
onthegowith5xy
Feb 7, 2008 at 6:45 pm
I cannot believe this!!! My oldest boy is just one year younger and I cannot image someone not paying enough attention to a child this age! That poor girl must be so scared! She must have been so confussed when her body started changing! I hope both children go to a good home!!! God knows that girl will have to go through a lifetime of therapy. So, so sad!!!
Ihavekidstoo
Feb 7, 2008 at 7:16 pm
I want to volunteer to be the one to chop of his dick. Really. Yep, that’s a vile thing to feel about someone I’ve never met, but this is a vile, worthless, sadistic, EVIL excuse for a human being. And the 11-year-old’s mother should get the same sentence as her baby-raping boyfriend - life without ANY hope of parole. Oh, and put them BOTH in the general population, with the words “I raped a baby” branded on their foreheads.
Yet another case of a woman putting a penis ahead of her child’s welfare. Not only did she NOT have the animal arrested as soon as she found out he did this, nine months later she let him BACK into her home to be near her daughter. She’s an even bigger P.O.S than he is.
loving_mom
Feb 7, 2008 at 9:01 pm
Holy crap!! I have an 8 year old step-daughter and I am telling you right now her dad would be on a murdering spree if that was his baby girl.
Kristy
Feb 7, 2008 at 9:44 pm
My God. I feel so sorry for that little girl. What a horrible state of affairs for her. Isn’t it crazy the young ages of girls maturing sexually (and I don’t mean having sex - it’s likely this was non consensual, I mean menstruating.) these days!
I do feel incredibly sorry for her (I can see this is going to cause an argument from some posters) because although it is certainly obvious that a 10 year old can’t raise a child alone, this poor girl is still having her child removed from her. That’s got to be heartbreaking for any mother. I hope they can find a way that the two of them can be placed together and hopefully some amazing family will take them in and raise both these children and give them both a shot at a “normal” life.
As for that guy, I’ll join the line to kick him in the nuts. Asshole.
rockdoll_71
Feb 7, 2008 at 10:16 pm
This is unreal. I can’t even believe it. Someone should have protected that girl. This story is a nightmare.
bfmoon
Feb 7, 2008 at 10:33 pm
I do feel incredibly sorry for her (I can see this is going to cause an argument from some posters) because although it is certainly obvious that a 10 year old can’t raise a child alone, this poor girl is still having her child removed from her. That’s got to be heartbreaking for any mother. I hope they can find a way that the two of them can be placed together and hopefully some amazing family will take them in and raise both these children and give them both a shot at a “normal” life.
Kristy, when reading the story I felt the same exact way. I understand her being to young to raise the baby, but they should still be together, I feel its very wrong and is probably very hurtful and confusing to the 11 year old, to have her baby taken away from her. *sigh*
Ihavekidstoo
Feb 8, 2008 at 4:00 am
BFmoon and Kristy, I totally agree that someone should find a way to keep the little girl and her baby together. Obviously, she can’t raise it, but the fact that she was crying in court when they were discussing taking it away tells you she already loves that baby. It’s probably not the same way an adult mother would love her baby, but the way a child would love a sibling or friend.
Regardless, I hope they can find a way to let her stay with her baby - one that doesn’t put any burden of parenthood on her, which NO 11-year-old should have.
When I read about her crying in court I just wanted to find her, put my arms around her and tell her she didn’t do ANYTHING wrong and that everything will be OK.
Alexandra
Feb 8, 2008 at 6:43 am
I do agree that mother and child should be kept together…like with the same foster family. She can still be a mother to her child, but with support.
I bet she views her child as one good thing that came from a horrible situation…the silver lining in the cloud.
morriganreighn
Feb 8, 2008 at 6:50 am
im angry, im outraged, and im heartsick. that this child had to endure this twisted bastard touching her, that her mom chose to keep the ass around AND that other members of her family knew…THEY KNEW…and they did nothing.
when my oldest daughter was 10 boys were still “icky” and goddess knows that if you actually touched one, you would have “cooties” that you would never get rid of. (one tried to touch her and he found himself walking funny with a higher pitch to his voice for a few days). she even closed her eyes if i kissed dad when she was around, proclaiming “EWWWWWWW! Thats Gross Mom!”
I cant even begin to imagine what this child went through and what she will have to deal with in the comming years, but i agree that she and the baby should be placed together. she has already had enough trauma in her short life.
heatherlindsays
Feb 8, 2008 at 7:01 am
I still cannot believe that a GROWN man had sex witha 10 yr old. I am still in shock about this. And, then to think about a child having a baby, wow. I really have no words for this except these people are sick. This poor child will have to go through life knowing she had this child and she can’t take care of it.
I can’t believe this. I’m just shocked right now.
heatherlindsays
Feb 8, 2008 at 7:02 am
Oh and Ihavekids too, i’d be right there with you. I agree 100% with you. The mom is a POS because she didn’t even notice. Who ignores something like this?!!
Alexandra
Feb 8, 2008 at 7:33 am
I have a six-year-old son…my husband has a relative who molested his kids. So whenever we’re at that relative’s house, I watch that guy like a hawk. And I don’t care if he’s old…if he ever tries anything funny with my son I’m calling the cops!
mamacitakmo
Feb 8, 2008 at 7:44 am
OMG. This breaks my heart. I agree with IHaveKidsToo. What an awful life that little girl has had already. And i hope someone is there to tell her it’s not her fault. Sick. Oh i would KILL if it was my daughter….
Ihavekidstoo
Feb 8, 2008 at 7:52 am
Heather, I think the mother knew all along but didn’t do anything about it because she was afraid of “losing” her “man” (and I use that term loosely because this P.O.S isn’t FIT to be called a man).
It breaks my heart to imagine what this little girl will grow up thinking of men. Where was her own father to protect her? My dad wasn’t perfect by a long shot, but I always knew he’d throw himself in front of a bus to protect me. Every little girl should be able to grow up knowing her daddy is her knight in shining armor and he will always be there to protect her.
A girl’s relationship with her dad strongly influences what kind of man she’ll take up with when she’s a woman. What will happen to this little girl if she never finds a healthy father-daughter relationship? I pray there’s a family out there for her with a big-hearted dad who will be the kind of father she really deserves.
alovingmom
Feb 8, 2008 at 9:22 am
Hi guys I have been busy at work and haven’t posted in a long while but this one got me!
Where was the Father? Sorry to make assumptions but I’m sure this guy wasn’t the first loser this woman had hanging around.
And I have to agree the girl should know her baby but with careful observation- not only is she a child herself, but she has been through trama that she may transgress to her child someday without proper treatment. Not only that but I know I love my children to death but when I look at them sometimes I think oh god why did I let them have such a loser for a father. I know it has nothing to do with them, but this girl may not have that same mentality as she has been through so much. I am so worried for her, and that baby. I hope they both get the lives that innocent children deserve. :)
fourkidzmom
Feb 8, 2008 at 2:15 pm
I saw this on another site the other day; absolutely disgusting. I’d like to hack his balls off. Poor little girl; how scary would it be to be 10 years old and giving birth? I was 22 when I had my first and it can even be kind of scary if you are older, married, and the child is planned and very wanted.
It’s a shame that one of her relatives or a foster family cannot take BOTH the girl and the baby and sort of raise the baby more like it is a younger sibling; it breaks my heart that they might separate the two of them. She might not be old enough to take on all the responsibilities of parenting, but that doesn’t mean she can’t be involved in her baby’s life.
Hellcat
Feb 8, 2008 at 4:22 pm
Interesting fact- Ted Bundy’s was raised with his mother “like siblings.” I don’t think it worked out for him. This little girl has more than likely been permanently damaged. Perhaps mental illness runs in the family. Maybe that’s why her mother let her boyfriend get away with that crap. No sane person would, would they?
As much as it sucks for her right now, I don’t think they should be raised as siblings or even together unless she undergoes a heavy psychological evaluation.
Alexandra
Feb 9, 2008 at 8:10 am
Ted Bundy’s father may have also been his grandfather…there were rumors that Louise Bundy’s father raped her and as a result little Ted was born. So that would make him her son AND her brother.
It’s clear the girl doesn’t want to be separated from her child…why separate them and traumatize her further?
Amy
Feb 9, 2008 at 11:40 am
The little girl, she needs major attention. She’s going to need so much love,acceptance and patience as well as high quality counseling, a great family environment, and actual practical support.
This family needs a careful plan. The child should not know she is the product of rape until an advanced age, when she knows in her heart she is wanted, loved, valuable, irreplacable. She also needs a strong spiritual belief system that tells her she is not her body. There are people who are the product or rape. They needs a special world view so they don’t end up with the gut conviction they aretrash in essence, especially with this nasty fuck for a biological father. (I like the term “your other gene source.”)
April RJ
Feb 9, 2008 at 8:49 pm
Oh good God. I have neglected coming here for a couple of days because of family issues and now I wonder why I came back. These stories keep getting worse. Who in their right mind wouldn’t notice that their 10 year old is pregnant??? This poor little girl never had a chance, did she??? I hope that the sick bastard that did this to her feels the same humiliation and heartbreak he put her through in prison.
Alexandra
Feb 10, 2008 at 5:35 pm
Don’t worry about that, April. Child molesters are at the bottom of the totem pole in prison…probably a small step up from child killers.
itsmecathy
Feb 10, 2008 at 11:51 pm
I just don’t think it is right to make the child suffer the heartbreak of losing her baby - she did nothing wrong! They should be placed in foster care together. Every baby has a right to its mother and every mother no matter how young has a right to her own offspring. I hate this culture we live in.
donnam
Feb 11, 2008 at 5:55 am
OMG, it’s like a modern day version of the color purple. What this man did to this child is vile and unforgivable. I hope he looks in the mirror and loves himself because honey that’s the only one that loves him. Here he has fu*@ked this poor innocent child for life. God only knows the repercussions she will have to endure for the REST OF HER LIFE. If she makes it that far….. often times when things like this happen to young girls they turn to a life of drugs and abuse to escape the pain from her past tormentors and memories. I hope someone takes his “manhood” from him while he’s locked away beter yet I hope they try to impregnate him since it made him feel like such a MAN to do this to a litle girl!!! This makes me so angry The man is lucky that this was not my daughter because I would gladly spend the rest of my life in prison to make sure he could never do this again. Oh yeah Hellcat Ted Bundy wasn’t the only one raised as his mother’s siblinbg Jack Nicolson was as well (so see they don’t always turn out crazy and deranged)
Alexandra
Feb 11, 2008 at 7:58 am
She’s not the youngest…there was a South American girl who gave birth at 6. Still, who in their right mind wants to do it with a child?
April RJ
Feb 11, 2008 at 1:45 pm
Alexandra - I could not agree more. There is NOTHING sexy or sexual about a child. I have such a hard time understanding how any man could think of a child as a sexual object. When I say child, I am applying it to teenage girls as well. Sure they are cute (in a non-sexual way) and like to try to act sexy but they are NOT sexy…. Not by any means whatsoever!! UGH! Let’s face it, there are plenty of screwed up women that are of consenting age just dying to give it up - Why torture an innocent child???????
Amy
Feb 12, 2008 at 5:08 am
Pedophilia is a medical diagnosis for adults who have abnormal sexual desire for children.
In people with abnormal sexual urges, we often look at their formative years and what was introduced into their brain wiring. Sometimes they were intitiated into sexual activity far too young by an adult predator. Sometimes the portral of children as sexual objects got wired into them at a highly formative stage.
These two factors suggest action we can take. When a child is abused, we need to make certain they have high quality counseling. By the time they’re 18, we will expect them to make acceptible choices. Many sex offenders start experimenting with children at 14. We need to not turn aside from this nasty reality and make sure fledgling pedophiles get caring treatment while their consciences are still active and their empathy is still functional. Otherwise we’re just waitng for them to create a bunch of victims.
When an adult pedophile acts, makes choices about preying, we need to be certain he is removed from contact with kids. We need to be as sure as we can be that he or she will never violate another child. Strict, lengthy prison terms. And I also think we need a new counseling tact, one that is not averse to the nastiness of this condition. It’s pathological. We put pedophiles back on the streets as if they’d merely committed a crime. The truth is, they are compelled to act as they do. And though we may only want to see them as villians, many pedophiles still listen to their conscience, try very hard not to hurt kids. We need to face these facts to create more effective treatment.
Our culture treats sex as both a supreme pursuit and an inalienable right. Those portrayals diminishes many people. And it works in predators’ minds to validate their feelings about children.
Though it is not a solution in itself, I believe castration should not be viewed as such an evil act. I would respect an offending pedophile who chose this option. I would forgive him in my heart. It is sign of committment and good faith to treat children as a sacred trust. In fact, the act would be an admirable show of strength.
We treat pedophiles with too much generalized revulsion. We find their attraction to children so revolting that we don’t distinguish between offending and non-offending. Some men work very hard not to offend. Then they often struggle to offend only minimally. Eventually they often give in.
To change, everyone needs hope, including the hope of forgiveness. We tell people attracted to children that they are irredeemable monsters, so how are they to behave? How are they to change if they can’t seek help? Add to that all the outrageously false information and support they get on the internet these days, and it makes the effort of protecting kids and resisting them seem unnecessary, misguided even.
Everyone needs to feel good about themselves, or they break. Feeling like a monster, a young, non-offending pedophile is told by pro-pedophile groups that pedophilia is just an as yet misunderstood but valid sexual orientation, that kids area sexual and benefit from sex with adults. Do we really want non-offending pedophiles to find their only support in those groups? We need to offer them hope, healing, understanding, and even respect and admiration when they fight their overpowering deviant sexual urges and the temptation to be weak, fall for fallacious justifications for violating children.
Now maybe we don’t feel particularly inclined to support pedophiles like this. It doesn’t matter. We owe it to kids to met these peoples’ needs.
Oh, and how about we work on our culture’s portrayal of children as “sexy.”
In my counseling experience, teen boys are often confused about their feelings about children. Girls get different treatment, are exposed to different assumptions. But we send subtle messages to boys about “how men are.” It’s such bullshit.
I have three younger sibs. I used to cuddle them, smack their butts in mock fights, even peck them on the lips. Imagine how many boys are treated if they cuddle a kid.
Adults help kids label their feelings. We have to be careful. They are fragile. Boys feel scared if they like holding a child or find a child beautiful. Add to that their confusion about nonstop erections. They often think it means something is wrong with them. In our fear, we don’t validate the innocent appeal of children. And we have all seen accounts of how young criminals formed their identities. Young men need our help to see themselves as loving, decent human beings or they will become the pigs they are sometimes assured they are.
Kitty
Feb 12, 2008 at 6:13 am
Honestly, while it might be a good idea to raise the girl and her baby in different houses, I see nothing wrong with letting the child have visitation with her child. I’m a huge fan of the “open adoption” model. The adopted children–and adults–I know seem to turn out best in these situations.
I know a girl who was the product of rape. She was raised by a loving family, and she’s got a good head on her shoulders. She would be the first to say “take the baby from the bio-mother.” She knows and loves her bio-mother but being in the same house with the woman would have hurt her psyche in the long run. The bio-mom–15–was healing from too many things, and she still is. It wasn’t her fault, but both children’s welfare needs to be factored into any decisions made.
Amy
Feb 12, 2008 at 6:44 am
I know a woman who was raped at 18 and raised the baby alone as a single parent. That baby is in med school now, happy, healthy, more effective in life than many people. She went through some issues typical of fatherless children, but no detectable issues around being the product of rape. I believe that’s because her mother worked her ass off to communicate how neccesary and irreplacible the child was. Mom also made a point of cultivating the spiritual belief that people are souls and their bodies merely recepticles for souls. Then when the kid figured out that, hey, that guy wasn’t even mom’s boyfriend and mom only has a tight collection of carefully neutral sentences to say about the guy and gee my mom is so young…..mom began expressing her belief that they were fated to be together, a divine pairing that made the means inconsequential. So by the time this girl was an adult and asked, she had no doubt that she was her mother’s own heart, two souls destined to walk this earth together, her body merely a convenient contrivance of the fates and a test of her mother’s strength and love.
People need perspective in all things. Perspective is everything.
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fully1960
May 10, 2008 at 6:06 pm
It is incomprehensible that such monsters are walking the earth! When I first heard of this I was literally sick to my stomach Every time these things come out we are once again able to see the evil with-in our mists! My heart goes out to this innocent child and to the infant, how strange to say “child and infant” in the same sentence. This poor child will never recover from such horrific acts placed upon her!
I will keep the two of them in my, prays.
God bless them both.
Ihavekidstoo
May 11, 2008 at 11:57 am
Yes, this is a vile human being, but to whomever posted “Ah gots two girlfriends…” you’re pretty frikkin vile too. No one on this blog has EVER implied that race has anything to do with why people abuse their children. It’s disgusting that you would do so now.
Shitty parents can be found in all segments of society, rich and poor, white and black, religious and irreligious, gay and straight. Only the truly ignorant think evil is exclusive to one particular group.
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