Mother forces genital piercings on 13-year-old girl
To be fair this whole family seems to be a little bit of a mess. The mother describes her 13-year-old girl (now 16) as being promiscuous. She shaved her daughters head after discovering her daughter having sex with her (the mother’s) boyfriend.
Shaving her head seemed to be a little extreme, but I guess this wasn’t enough.
The mother had a friend, “Tattoo Tammy”, agree to perform the genital piercing. It sounds like she wanted to have her daughter pierced in an attempt to make sex less pleasurable for her. Though it was my understanding genital piercings did the opposite.
Shortly after, the piercing became infected which resulted in Child Welfare Services being called.
The mother is now facing up to 30 years in prison. “Tattoo Tammy” was sentenced to jail for a one year. And the mothers boyfriend now has an arrest warrant.
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16 opinions for Mother forces genital piercings on 13-year-old girl
April RJ
Oct 26, 2007 at 10:47 pm
I thought she was aquitted?? And the boyfriend arrested pending an investigation on the allegation that he had sex with the daughter??
blogomment
Oct 28, 2007 at 4:23 am
The girl says, “She was trying to save me.” So it might not be that the mother is lying about the girl’s promiscuity. If so, I’ve heard it said that a young boy who wants to act out sexually is pretty much on his own with that, a girl who wants to act out sexually will have all the help in the world.
blogomment
Oct 28, 2007 at 4:24 am
…and what’s the deal with the mother’s boyfriend supposedly having sex with the kid?
Blondie
Oct 29, 2007 at 5:16 am
What the hell is wrong with people? Is this not sexual abuse in top form? Daughters sleeping with mom’s boyfriend…..mom’s having boyfriend that would sleep with their daughters…….genital piercing? Shaving one’s head for having sex? what ever happen to birth control and adult discussions????? Tatto Tammy? let’s not even start on that…….
jaleja
Oct 29, 2007 at 6:13 am
Oh boy, what crap. The mother’s boyfriend molests her 13 year old daughter, and she punishes the daughter??? And then brainwashes the poor kid to believe that the pain of the piercing and humiliation of having her head shaved is “for her own good’, to “save” her??
Kitty
Oct 29, 2007 at 12:17 pm
What kills me about this is the attitude of the siblings and they jury.
I never had to deal with abuse anywhere NEAR this bad, but the attitude towards the abuse? Exactly that. The family has decided that this girl is bad, and thus deserves everything she gets. And the girl’s behavior seems exactly like my behavior when I was young. She lied at first, to protect her mother. Even to the police, and that’s why they don’t believe her!
Furthermore, this girl was raped. A 13-year old having sex with 30-year old authority figure–that’s rape in my book.
But the brothers all agree that the whole thing is the daughter’s fault.
Lets pretend the mother didn’t know the daughter was having sex with a thirty-year old, let alone her boyfriend. That means the mother didn’t figure out that her daughter was being sexually exploited.
That’s negligence at the very least, without the genital mutilation.
April RJ
Oct 29, 2007 at 12:29 pm
Kitty - I agree. The mother is a PIG! This little girl need counseling, not genital piercing. WTF???
Kitty
Oct 29, 2007 at 8:12 pm
Thanks, April;
The mother said she tried counciling to “make her daughter better.” But “It didn’t work!” She might have taken her to counciling, but I doubt it was for a long amount of time!
Furthermore, while the Mutilation that occurs in Africa (particularly infibulation) is MUCH more extreme, the reasoning behind it is exactly the same. That makes my blood run cold.
They want her genitals to HURT so that she doesn’t sleep with people. Sex should be painful, so that women put up with it grudgingly.
And the Jury freekin’ agreed!!!!!!!
Yet it only aggravates the STD problems, because men have no wish to sleep with their frigid wives, so they sleep with hookers, bringing diseases home to their wife. So the wife gets an STD, and no joy in the consummation of her marriage.
Ya know how my mothers stopped me from being promiscuous?
She freekin’ talked with me about sex. I wasn’t afraid of her!
The part that kills me is that I just know how this poor little girl is going to be received by her family for the rest of her life. They’ll hate her and blame her for the whole thing. “You forced mom to do that! Then you told people!”
It will never occur to them that the mother did anything wrong.
April RJ
Oct 30, 2007 at 7:46 am
OMG!! No kidding. I feel for this child. My Mother also talked to me. In addition - my mother was raped at 15 and had my sister a 10 days before her 16 birthday. I was able to see how having a baby at a very young age affected my mother. She was never anything but honest about that part of her life. For that I’m thankful.
So besides being paranoid about the “teen pregnancy” thing, she also educated me about the other risks of having sew before I was married. Like other teen girls - I did what I wanted, but I was safe. This mother was lazy. She didn’t want to take responsibility for what her child was going through. Let’s face it - our children are just a reflection of ourselves. It’s all how you raise them…
Kitty
Nov 2, 2007 at 6:26 am
That’s a coincidence–My mother gave birth to my older sister when she was 16. No rape, just a teenager kept completely ignorant about sex. She *was* molested as a small girl, and didn’t know how to handle it because her parents kept her ignorant and didn’t want to “corrupt her innocence”. She never told them, because she didn’t know for certain what happened, and was certain she was to blame somehow.
Then she started having sex in her earl teens, and while she managed to get ahold of some birthcontrol, she knew nothing about how to use it. She wound up pregnant because she forgot her pills two days in a row, and took three the third day.
She got married, and made a lot of her life. She’s very successful now. But it wasn’t a cakewalk, and she made certain her daughters knew about sex.
As a result, I’ve only had one sex partner–my husband. I’ve never had to go through what she went through. My sisters are pretty much the same way. Only one of us has had more than one sex partner, and she took care of herself to the decision wasn’t fatal or harmful beyond the immediate. It wasn’t out of fear or shame, either.
I got to college was was appalled to discover how many girls knew absolutely nothing, and wound up hurt because of it.
I wound up giving the STD/Birth control lecture to girls years older than me and with ten times my experience.
Sometimes I wanted to ask them “But didn’t your mother LOVE you? How could she keep you ignorant like this?! Didn’t she at least want to make certain you weren’t taken advantage of?”
One girl believed you couldn’t get pregnant ‘your first time.’ She has a five-year-old now because of that. Another girl (even sadder) was a virgin on her wedding night and can’t make herself enjoy sex because it was ‘wrong’ for so many years. She says she knows it’s okay now, but she can’t help but feel violated every time he touches her because she was so proud of being a virgin for so long.
Did your mother raise your sister herself? Or was she put up for adoption? Either way, your mother strikes me as a brave woman.
umi
Nov 9, 2007 at 10:17 pm
“Though it was my understanding genital piercings did the opposite.”
Actually, it depends on which part of the genitalia is pierced. When the clitoris is pierced the nerve endings in there are destroyed. This leads to either complete desensitization or dramatic reduction in sensitivity to stimulation. As of 2002 or so, many states specifically prohibited clitoral piercings. Most women who get genital piercings have their labia pierced, which is much safer and less damaging to the body (since there aren’t as many nerve endings there).
April RJ
Nov 9, 2007 at 10:41 pm
Kitty - Funny story (not funny ha-ha). My mother ran away from home for fear of telling her parents of her unplanned prenancy. They tracked her down and adopted my sister when she was born. My grandfather was a veteran and had benifits to offer my sister and a life my mother (as a 16 year old girl) would not be able to provide. My mother was permitted to stay in their home and have a hand at raising my sister but she was just too young and immature. She was pretty active in my sister’s life but still had the freedom to be a teenager without all of the responsibility of being a mother. I know it sounds sad but she wasn’t ready and didn’t ask for a baby. I have been able to understand and accept the decision my mother made (was forced to make) as a “child” but my sister is not so forgiving. My mother is in her fifties and I think the past should be just that. It isn’t like she repeated the mistake ans many young mothers do. Besides - My grandfather died and my sister got SS. My grandmother was always buying her a new car, nice clothes, whatever she wanted. My mother could provide those things for her. In fact, I worked for everything nice I ever had. My mother never had the means to spoil me rotten. It has made such a difference in our adult lives (the way we were raised). I am very responsible and independent and my sister is very materialistic. I spoil my son to an extent and my sister lets her daughter act like a demon. LOL Regardless - My mother was “adult” enough to know that she wasn’t ready for a baby. She shared with me her wisdom of what having a baby can do to both a young body and a young mind. Perfect remedy to keep your daughters from teen pregnancy.
cozmo
Nov 19, 2007 at 4:40 pm
Sometimes I wonder what goes through these idiots’ heads. Forced piercings?? WTF?
Momma Lyndz
Nov 19, 2007 at 10:30 pm
I’m a teen mom and I resent the comments basicaly down sizing us.
I am a great Mom, and will continue to be one for as long as my heart beats. Yes I agree that children need to have the “talk” on the facts of having children, however, just because I had my child young dosn’t mean I can’t take care of her right. I’m sure thats not what you ment but none the less it does sound like that.
This is not my mothers falt b/c from the year I turned 13 I would have seen more births natural and c-section then anyone that dosn’t work in a maternity ward.
I was on birth-control and in new relationship. I was 18, My daughter is 1 and 1/2 now. I would not change one thing, I’m sure my teen mom friends wouldn’t either. I’m finnishing college, yea its hard but she is my life as I’m sure all other parents would understand.
As for this mother you never know maybe she was at the end of her rope, not condoning her actions though, I would think kicking the boyfriend to the curb and talking to the daughter would have saficed. People, kids and adults, will do whatever they want all you can do is give them the information to help protect themselves.
CDEL80
Jun 29, 2008 at 6:24 pm
Momma Lyndz I understand where you are coming from……but if you’re happy and your daughter is happy then that’s all that matters. That your daughter is happy and safe. I never felt the need for a party life when I was in college…..but never thought about having kids early……I just thought that I would not be a big social butterfly so it was a surprise when I found out I was pregnant when I was just legally allowed to drink which is a big milestone. And I got sht from everyone, even my own step Mother. It didn’t help that at 21 I looked like I was seventeen, earning dirty looks and nosy old ladies butting in. Like you, I wouldn’t have changed a thing, I might have missed out on some things, but compared to my daughter, they mean NOTHING. My point is don’t let anyone get you down if you’re happy with your life. =)
CDEL80
Jun 29, 2008 at 6:27 pm
I however don’t think the comments here are directed towards teen parents, more towards this shitty ass mother who deserves to be buried alive.
Sorry my post got to long to post this in the same post =p
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